We all want to be with someone, we want to feel loved and we want to have someone to grow old with. However, sometimes the desire to be in a relationship makes us do crazy, stupid things and we often wonder if we really want to be with someone just so that we don’t stay alone. That’s when we start asking ourselves how happy this other person really makes us? We wonder if we’re really in love with our partner or are we just in love with the idea of being in love?
In such moments we need to be smart and consider making the right decision. You need to understand that sometimes it’s better to stay alone than staying with someone who doesn’t appreciate you and isn’t worthy of your time and attention.
You may find it hard to accept the fact that you’re better off alone at first, but sometimes it’s the best thing for you. If you’re still having a hard time making up your mind here are some of the most straightforward signs that the person you’re with doesn’t deserve you and that you’d be much happier exiting the relationship.
You’re losing your self-respect
If you feel that you’re slowly starting to lose your self-respect because your partner always tries to put you down and nothing you ever do is good enough for him, you need to consider leaving him. It’s best that you part ways and you start looking for your happiness elsewhere, even if that means you need to stay single for a while. You don’t need a partner who makes you feel bad about yourself, you need to be with someone who inspires you to be a better person because he believes in you and everything you do.
Set your priorities
When you’re in an unhappy relationship you tend to lose focus and all your priorities shift. But when you start contemplating on the fact that maybe you’re better off on your own, you get a chance to reconsider these priorities and set them straight again.
You can focus on the things that really matter, on the things that are happening in your life and on how to make yourself happy again. That’s all that matters and that’s what you need to do. The power to change your life is within your reach, you just need to motivate yourself to grasp it.
You dwell on the past
This is the most common mistake many long-term partners do. They start to dwell on the past when things were good and when they were madly in love. They try to go back to that time but it’s impossible. What’s in the past should stay in the past. If you lost the moment and you no longer feel the way you used to, you need to move on and find something better for you. Even though it may feel like you’ve wasted so much time on your partner, you should focus on everything that awaits you once you’re finally free of this burden.
Your partner drains your energy
And lastly, if you feel like your partner is sucking your life force out of you and leaving you dry, you need to think about leaving this relationship. You need to be with someone who makes you feel energized, invigorated and who give you the will to live and fight for your life. You don’t need someone who makes you feel negative and lifeless.