Getting married is the ultimate step in every healthy, functioning relationships. It’s a stage in our lives that should be filled with love, acceptance, respect and happiness. People who get married are (usually) in love so why is the divorce rate so high and getting higher? Didn’t the people who said yes to each other, vowed to love and respect each other until death do them part?
Well, in reality, there’s no such thing as happily ever after and a couple that was perfectly happy and in love this year, may end up resenting each other the very next. Despite the fact that two people should do everything they can to stay married, if there is a solution for their problems, sometimes divorce is the only option. Sometimes it’s much better to get a divorce then stay in an unhealthy, toxic marriage.
5 Reasons why divorce is sometimes the best option for everyone
You have the chance to fall in love and meet your soulmate
Maybe you married the wrong person, but still as long as you’re together, there’s nothing you can do about it. You don’t think about the possibilities that await you until you get a divorce. And once you’re free again, you realize that now you can really meet the right person for you. If you feel that your marriage isn’t going anywhere, if all you do is fight and make each other miserable, I believe it’s safe to say that you may not be compatible. But just because you made a mistake it doesn’t mean that you need to suffer for it for the rest of your life. You can still be happy and meet someone you’ll fall madly in love with. A divorce, in this case, may be the best option for you to be happy again.
You will have the chance to improve yourself and grow as a person
If you’re stuck in an unhealthy, toxic marriage, you’ve probably become so focused on how to fix things that you’ve completely forgotten about yourself and your own well-being. All you do is think about the consequences of your actions and how to make someone else happy so that you avoid conflicts and arguments. Maybe you’ve even distanced yourself from your friends and family and everything you once loved. If you muster the courage to continue your life journey on your own, you’ll see the amazing benefits. You’ll be able to reconnect to your old friends, do the things you love without worrying what someone else would say or think and simply rediscover yourself. You will improve your mental state and you will get the chance to work on your personal growth and happiness.
You’ll finally have the chance to see what freedom feels like
The first thing you’ll notice when you get out of your toxic, unhealthy relationship is the overwhelming feeling of freedom. You may have lost your marriage and partner, but what you get in return is so much more valuable. No one should be in a marriage that restricts them, controls their every move and makes them feel worthless. If you’re stuck in a marriage like this, divorce is definitely your best option. No one should define your worth, happiness and freedom because you’re the master of your own life.
It’s the best for your children as well
Many people decide to stay married because of their kids even though they can’t stand each other. They believe that staying married sets a good example and that if they get divorced their children will be unhappy. What they can’t see is that children see and hear everything, they sense that you’re unhappy even if you think you mask it well. How can it be better for them to listen to you arguing every other night? Divorce can be overwhelming and confusing for the younger children in the beginning but over time they’ll see that both of you are happier on your own, which will make them happier as well. They’ll get the chance to grow up in a healthy environment and they’ll thank you for that when they grow up.
You will put your health first
After the drama and confusion that follows every divorce fades away, you’ll get the chance to focus on your health and well-being. Being on your own will leave you more time to work on your mental and physical well-being and do everything in your power to improve it. You’ll have time to reconnect with yourself and work on the relationship you have with yourself.